Maintaining Purity in an Impure World

If we want our children to remain pure in this world, we as husbands and fathers want to be the first to set the example. What do we watch or listen to? What do we view when surfing the internet, especially when nobody is watching? What do we like to talk about or joke about? Is our example showing our kids how to be modest and pure, or is it communicating a different message?

Please allow me to offer a personal illustration. I have Celiac Disease. I will get sick if I ingest even a crumb of something with wheat (or other gluten) in it. At home I have my own peanut butter jar (so bread crumbs don't find their way into my peanut butter) and my own toaster (so crumbs of regular bread won't touch my gluten-free bread). At mealtimes our family is very careful not to "cross-contaminate" the food: to let a serving spoon touch something with gluten and then go back into a bowl of something I could otherwise eat. I am constantly alert about everything that enters my mouth. I wash my hands frequently so I don't accidentally ingest even a hint of gluten. The cost of making a mistake is very high, so I exercise constant caution.

The same vigilance is needed in the area of moral purity. I don't want even a crumb of something immoral to come into my mind through my eyes or ears. The consequences are huge and hurtful. I want to guard myself constantly to maintain purity.

As hard as it is for me to guard myself in what I eat physically, it is even harder to guard my eyes and ears from so many impurities all around me. I spend a lot of time on the internet, so I am constantly in danger of seeing or hearing things that I shouldn't see or hear. I have to be on my guard at all times.

Keeping morally pure is vital to us as believers in Christ. We want to remain unstained from the world (see James 1:27). As I tell my kids often, once you see something, you cannot ever "un-see" it.

A trusted Christian researcher has put together some new statistics about internet pornography, teen sexual behavior, and the unique challenges that come with the proliferation of smart phones and tablet devices. I recommend you look at Josh McDowell's new website: www.just1clickaway.org.

I should clarify something: I personally use many technological tools in my work. I am not against using them, but I know the importance of keeping good boundaries for myself, and teaching my children to keep good boundaries as well.

How are you doing? Are you keeping strong standards of moral purity? Or do you need to make some changes today?